I just finished my new book, Synergy Energy: How to Use the Power of Partnerships to Market Your Book, Grow Your Business and Brand Your Ministry. This book has been in my heart for years – and God sent me help. I had co-authors: Anthony & Crystal Obey (who also happen to be publishers and joint venture specialists) and help of other contributors, Bob Ivory, Karen Taylor-Bass, Monica Wood and Sherese Duncan. Plus great “eyes” to do the proofing like Leah Hubbard, Tamekia Ashford, Natasha Munson, Vic Bolton and Skyla Thomas. ALL CPN MEMBERS TOO BY THE WAY! :)
We help each other. Everyone needs help. Even President Obama is advocating everyone working together. No one can do anything alone. We have to use the power of partnerships to reach our goals.
Did you get that? Use the power of partnerships –not use people. There is a difference.
And let me explain because the world is filled with users. I’ve had the misfortune of some of these parasites work for me – and tried to take my business out.
But the minute I purged them from the company, Ministry Marketing Solutions was able to fulfill its destiny.
Don’t let “blood suckers” destroy you. Be careful who you pour into and mentor – check their motives. Gage their loyalty. See if they really are “for you” or want to “be you.” If they want to be you – they are intent to secretly steal all your information and contacts from you, all the while with a big smile on their face.
Not only did they steal confidential information and use the company’s contacts for personal use, they advertised to everyone that they generated much of the work for MMS clients. And people began to trust them as a publicist.
Now it’s one thing to stretch the truth on your resume, and it’s another to lie and say you ran campaigns and orchestrated publicity programs – when you were just really “in training” and basically administrative support.
It takes a lot of nerve to tell people that had the strategies, skills and contacts to do a job – when you are just really learning as you go and following instructions given to you. I call that a “counterfeit” and the “hating on your help” syndrome.
How do you know if you’re “hating on your help” – or know someone who is:
1. You fail to acknowledge or honor those who have helped you along the way. Failure to reciprocate to those who introduced you to a link in your personal destiny or exposed you to situations or experiences that expanded your vision. It’s called mentoring.
I regularly give homage to my mentors and whenever I can I reach out and ask them how can I help them. Whenever they need me, I’m there to support , endorse or promote something for them. They know they can count on me – because they unselfishly helped me.
2. You try to compete with your mentor and think you know more than them in the area that you received their training and advice. I never compete with my mentor – though they want me to be successful, I have enough respect for them to always defer to them or offer them as the “authority” – not myself.
But if my mentor gives me the “nod” to go ahead and take a project by the reigns, I then go full steam because I have their blessing. Be careful if someone claims to know it all and there are no real references or mentors cheering them on. If they can’t credit where they got their information, that means they STOLE IT and are a counterfeit.
3. And the last way you can if there is a “hating on your help” syndrome present, is when other people bring the mentor or previous employer up in conversation, and instead of speaking positively and telling people how they helped you, you share confidential information and spread gossip. This shows lack of business scruples.
Now that may make you feel better for that moment, but actually what you did is diminish your integrity, credibility and loyalty in the eyes of others. And they think, “Wow, if they can’t give credit where credit is due, that means – she’d probably do the same thing to me.” Then they’ll probably be careful about including you in their inner circle – because they feel that you can’t be trusted.
So, if you find yourself “hating on your help” make a change for good. Time out for trying to take other people’s stuff and passing it off as your own! I know money is tight for people, but integrity lasts forever.
THE NEW BUZZ FOR BUSINESS
If you really admire a person and want to what they do, help them be better. They will mentor you, grow you up to be bigger and better and you’ll flow with blessings. It’s a biblical principle to honor your mentor and we reap what we sow.
Cooperation is better than competition. There is power in partnerships. Team work does make the dream work. Add synergy energy to your relationships and watch your business and life skyrocket to new heights.
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Posted By: Pam Perry
Sunday, January 25th 2009 at 10:54PM
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